Abuse can happen to anyone. Not all abuse is physical, which makes it harder to recognize at times. Emotional abuse is unfortunately often overlooked, excused and denied though it can leave deep lasting scars.
The first step is to realize that one is in an abusive relationship. Are you afraid of your partner? Fear of your partner is usually the most telling sign that something is wrong in your relationship. If you constantly have to watch what you are saying, fearing that your partner may explode on you, there is something that needs to be done.
Fear is not the only warning sign. Let’s take a look at some more warnings signs that may indicate that you are in an unhealthy or abusive relationship.
- feel afraid of your partner much of the time?
- avoid certain topics out of fear of angering your partner?
- blame yourself for his/her mistreating behavior?
- feel helpless in your situation?
Does your partner…
- constantly criticize you and put you down?
- blame you for his/her behavior?
- control where you go or what you do?
- act jealous and possessive toward you?
- constantly check up on you?
- hurt or threaten you?
- force you to have sex with him/her?
- have a bad and unpredictable temper?
If you answered yes to some or most of these questions, it is very likely that you are either in an unhealthy or abusive relationship. The best thing to do from that point on is to seek help. If your partner is willing you should work on resolving the problem. If not, you ought to realize that what is going on in your relationship is not ok. Nobody deserves to be treated this way. You ought to be treated with respect and love. Talking with someone can help you understand that, enabling you to realize your self- worth, ultimately being able to act on that and do what is best for you.