Did you know that privacy concerns are more prevalent now than ever before since technology has made it so easy for us to take a peak into other people’s lives? What if it becomes too much? Do you constantly find yourself taking a look at your husband’s text messages or email accounts? When have you crossed the line and stepped over the boundaries that were set by you and your partner? Did you even set boundaries in the first place?
What can you do to spare your relationship from boundary violations?
1. Set Boundaries Early in the Relationship
Most couples discuss their finances, but did you know it is essential that relationship boundaries are discussed as well. Couples have a tendency to wait to discuss the nitty gritty things until something bad happens. This is why it is important to be proactive right from the start. Be open to talk about important aspects of the relationship early on and be sure you both are on the same page with the decisions you make regarding your relationship.
Communication is key in any relationship. Again, it is important to be open with one another and talk about the important aspects of the relationship and not wait until somebody gets hurt. It may be healthy depending on your relationship, to set aside some time every two or three weeks to discuss these important matters. This may be particularly helpful if you both have busy schedules. It also allows you to tackle one thing at a time and not overwhelm each other with letting things build up. If something comes up, I suggest you constructively confront your partner about it. Instead of snooping around, go directly to your partner and talk about the issue at hand. This will only make you grow as a couple and definitely keep you from any unnecessary drama in your relationship.
3. Be graceful For Your Partner
It is also important to keep in mind that a relationship requires work. It is an ongoing process! Show patience and love toward your partner when working on things in your relationship. Especially when change is required of your partner, it is crucial to be supportive, encouraging and understanding of the fact that change is hard and your partner is not perfect.
Relationships are a beautiful gift, yet you always have to keep in mind that they do require a lot of work. Life happens, difficulties will arise, but with constant communication, lots of love, patience, and grace you will be able to overcome the obstacles that your relationship may face.
About the Author: Isabell Ohlinger is a graduate student at Palm Beach Atlantic University where she is pursuing a master’s degree in Mental Health Counseling. Isabell is originally from Germany and came to the United States on a tennis scholarship to the University of Central Florida. She has a heart to serve, educate and to continue to learn as she believes we are all life-long students.